If you try and fail that’s ok, but if you never try at all then you’ll never succeed.
Certain moments in daily life seem to crystallize the attitudes that lead to failure.
I was sitting at the doctor’s office the other day when an older couple walked in and approached the unmanned reception desk. The woman turned to me and asked,”Where do they want us to check in?”
I told her that they just had to use one of the computers on the wall to check in.
“What if you can’t use a computer?” She said, clearly irritated.
“You can’t use a computer?” I asked incredulously.
“Well I can, but he can’t.” She said, pointing at her husband behind her, who grinned sheepishly.
At that point the receptionist walked by and the woman accosted her with an abrupt “Can’t we just check in with you?”.
It’s Not Hard, Really!
I have to point out that this was an English-speaking couple who didn’t seem to have any problems communicating. The computer check-in was a touch-screen that asked you to answer simple questions like whether you had allergies and requested that you type in data like your name and your address. Very simple procedure.
If the woman – who admitted that she could use a computer – had bothered to try the computer check-in she would likely have found it very simple and efficient.
She didn’t bother to TRY.
Never Try, Never Gain
I don’t know anything else about this woman apart from her behaviour that day, but I would venture a guess that she’s not a very successful person. I imagine her having the same boring job her entire life and never bothering to learn anything new. If she lost that boring job, she wouldn’t know what to do. She couldn’t face the scary prospect of learning something totally different from what she knew before.
She might have had many potential abilities that she never explored. She stayed stuck.
Fail, and Fail to Try?
I was incredibly frustrated when I left the doctor’s office that day. The women’s lack of initiative annoyed me so much. Maybe she tried some things in the past and failed. The pain of the failures prevents her from trying new things for fear of more pain (even if pain isn’t necessarily the outcome). In psychology they call the phenomenon learned helplessness.
I find it very sad when people give up before they try. Even if you’re tried and failed before you can succeed the next time. If you give up trying altogether then you’ve really failed.
Many people have tried to lose weight and they’ve failed. They might have tried to change their diets and it didn’t go the way they planned. If you aren’t willing to make an effort then you’ve already failed. You can’t learn and you can’t progress. Be willing to try different approaches. Be willing to go outside your comfort zone. Sometimes you’ll fail and look like an idiot, but you’ll probably learn something valuable for the next attempt. Some people aren’t willing to take chances and put their honour at stake. They play it safe and don’t stretch themselves.
That’s a recipe for a boring life of underachievement.
Make the Effort
Nothing worth achieving comes easily. Put in the time and effort and don’t stop until you achieve what you want.
Take a risk and there just might be a reward.
Don’t bother to try and you’ll never achieve anything.